4 Simple Tips to Bounce Back from Mistakes

4 Simple Tips to Bounce Back from Mistakes

We have been doing a really good job of “staying on track” lately. Our motivation is high, and we are feeling good about ourselves. We can’t believe we were living life any other way than this!

There comes a point where it begins to feel all too comfortable. A few old patterns start to gradually find their way back into your life, no big deal. Then, all of the sudden without even noticing we are right back to where we started.

We now have a choice to make. Are we going to be someone who can accept and love themselves? There’s a good chance we can stop right in the midst of action if we do so. Nip it in the butt and say, “Oh ya, this no longer serves me. If I continue to do this I’m going to feel like crap. What else can I do that will give me the same satisfaction as this, only in a loving and supportive way?”

OR  We can come from a place of self-hate, beat ourselves up, and hear Negative Nancy say, “I failed again. I will never be able to change, I am stuck in the pattern, might as well jump off the deep end and really sabotage now, poor me!” and become a victim of our own self.

Every mistake gives a person the chance to grow and learn from the experience. It probably won’t be the last either. It takes us (quite) a few go-arounds to learn fromsome mistakes. Of course there are those HUGE mistakes that we make in life that take only one time to never do again. (yep, those are always fun)

If we make a mistake that leads to even more mistakes, negativity, or desperation, we are giving that ONE mistake permission to guide future actions.

Here are 4 simple Tips to help us bounce back, stay positive, and perpetuate our life forward.

1. You are #1 – Get your priorities straight. If you are unhappy, not taking care of yourself, or living an unfulfilled life, something just isn’t right. There is a force creating a constant battle between the life you want to live and the one that you are actually living. It may be yourself, other people in your life, or possibly both. Whatever it is, you have to take care of YOURSELF first in order to be happy.

No One Knows You Better Than Yourself.

When you hurt yourself or others, are unhappy, or need to make a change, you have to stop fighting yourself and listen to your intuition. Stop telling yourself you can’t, and instead ask, “Why not? What truly IS holding me back?”

You are not being selfish, you are being honest. Put yourself first, and the rest will follow. If you are living from a place of truth and love within yourself, then you will enjoy what you are doing and find more happiness. People and things will circle in and out of your of life. Take care of the person that is ALWAYS within, you.

2.  Live Present – The reason the slip-up happened in the first place is because life wasn’t being consciously lived.  Our guard was let down in a vulnerable situation. We felt like our mind hijacked our body and made us do these things. Practicing mindfulness helps slow down our mind and understand why we are feeling the way we are.

Earlier I talked about being able to stop the action as it is happening. It IS possible. The more mindful you are about what you are doing, the clearer it becomes to see if the action is from a place of love or a place of hatred and doubt. Next time you feel a struggle within yourself ~ to do this instead of that, stop or have one more, workout or not workout…

STOP and ask yourself, “If I do this, is it coming from a place of love? Will this truly make me more happy or is it a temporary fix? Am I in control or do I secretly want to sabotage myself ?

Your should never have to fight against yourself. You may think that you want something, but instinctually know you shouldn’t have it. Understand why you have that internal battle. Some part of you craves the high, relief, and pleasure to feel better instantly. While soon after the “action” is over leaving you empty, unsatisfied, and way worse than before.

Come from a place of TRUTH! Your inner wisdom will guide you. Make choices based off of love for yourself, knowing that this will bring you joy going forward and give you contentment.

3. Change your Environment – If you begin feeling anxious or stressed, it probably has a lot to do with the environment you are in. Being in the same environment for too long can make you feel bored, irritable, tired. Changing your environment too quickly can make you feel rushed, overwhelmed, out of control.

We tend to spend a lot of time and energy in the environment that adds to our suffering. Make it easy on yourself and GET OUT. It’s amazing what relief you can get from an obsessive thought by walking away from the environment it evolves in. Stop grasping. Feel the burden dissolve away. Successfully add to your mindful strength to realize similar situations like this in the future.

Find a balance between the places you have to be and where you want to be.

Sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do, but it’s all about your attitude while doing it. It is easy to be miserable, complain, and wish every second you were somewhere else. Change where you are by being a positive source of energy. Engage with the people around you, come up with new concepts or ideas to talk about, smile, be vulnerable and allow people to learn from you.

You are going to struggle if you are constantly put in an environment you don’t want to be in, even if you are making the best of the situation.

Ask yourself, “What am I doing while I’m here? Is it supporting me? Is it making me a better person? Does it make me feel good? Is there anything else I’d rather be doing? Could I accomplish the same thing in a different place?”

4. View Your Audience – Surround yourself with people that support your journey. You may love someone very much, but be unable to make the changes you need to by having them an integral part of your life. At this time.

Become aware of negative influences. (The friend that always makes you drink, your favorite bitching partner, or the funny guy who belittles others ) These are “dose” people. Take an occasional swig, but don’t spend all your time around them. They will drain all your energy to feed into their own. It doesn’t mean they are bad people. It doesn’t mean that you still can’t have a relationship with them. Maybe some separation can give you sometime to reevaluate how you are spending your time. You become who you surround yourself with.

Don’t blame your unhappiness on others.

Just because someone wants you to act a certain way, has a comment about the way you dress, or your personality embarrasses them DOES NOT mean that you have to change. Don’t listen to “you can’t do that, I know you better than anyone else, do THIS and you will feel better.” More than likely they are trying to “help” you, but they are giving you advice from the way THEY feel. Because that is the only way they know how.

Make your own journey. Listen to the voice you know is true. Surround yourself with positive people. Meditation is the best way to become more in tune with your internal and external world. Close your eyes. Be patient. Use your breath. Let your mind wander. Come back to your breath.

~ You are right where you are supposed to be ~